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FAMILY MATTERS 

Family matters concern itself with things important to the family. Present it often takes more than one income to support family necessities. Many times this leads to parents and children missing that closeness that comes from sharing home cooked meals, helping with home work, school projects and fun times in the home. This lack of close in-home interaction lead to families suffering as a whole. Many parents, realizing this condition exist in their family, will try to compensate for this condition in some way. Many uses the efforts listed below:

1. Money--that is buying to the excess; clothing, electronic equipment, phones, trivial items the kids want but don't need. Automobiles, and gadgets to put on them. Freedom to decide own actions, even whether to obey or disobey--and the list goes on.

2. Allow ill behavior by the child, whether at home, school or other places.

A house divided will fall.    

   House divided--The most important thing a parent can remember in building a family. A united house is a case of having your cake and eating it too. You have all the love, understanding, cooperation, sharing, caring, respect, obedient, support; and enjoy all the beauty that goes with it. You can have it all. It all begin with parents being parents; not best friend, equals, buddies, pals, and the like. Parents are guardian, teachers, disciplinarians, counsels and providers. Parents set rules and teach children to follow those rules to the letter. Parents set children on a straight path and put them back on it each time they step from it. Parents must set rules and make certain those rules are kept. There should be punishment for each rule broken. Society has rules--break them, and you suffer the consequences. (One parent response to child rearing: "I don't intend to be a dictator in rearing my children.")   My response: Is your employer a dictator for setting, and enforcing rules of the job? Can you do what you want, when you want, and the way want on your job? Can every other employee do the same? Society is made up of rules/laws. Children, and adults alike will follow those rules/laws; or, suffer the consequences. Homes, are no different, children should follow rules. Things flows smooth when they do.

   Parents must be ever aware that there is a system for controlling, out of control children. When children falls into this system, kid gloves are not used to handle them. These kids, now branded bad, uncontrollable, and other terms, designed to give the system power of control, rules with an iron hand--with no regards to the wishes of the child. This system says plainly "the child is out of your hands, we'll take it from here;" and they do. Isn't is better if you teach and enforce the reality that laws must be followed; with home rules being no exception? Why let a system tell you, you can't do what they are doing everyday? If I build a pen to shut up stray pets, and tell you, a pet owner, that you can't keep your pet in a pen, or on a leash; then, I catch your pet roaming around, put it in my pen and make you pay upkeep through taxes; don't I have a vested interest in forcing you to let your pet stray? Is that so difficult to see? I think not. Prisons are moneymakers, and it take prisoners to keep them filled and the money flowing.

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